Michelle Duggar’s Tips For A Happy Marriage: ‘Husbands Are Commanded To Govern Their Wives’

Posted on Feb 21, 2012 @ 01:00AM

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By Alexis Tereszcuk - Radar Senior Reporter

We’re guessing that Michelle Duggar doesn’t have a copy of The Female Eunuch by her bedside...

After giving birth to 20 kids and racking up 27 years of marriage the matriarch knows a thing or two about how to have a happy marriage, and she shared her tenants recently on what a wife should do to keep her husband happy.

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The 45-year-old wife of Jim Bob Duggar took to the stage at a conference, which aired in the season premiere of their reality show 19 Kids and Counting, where she spoke to other Christian women about her success story.

The deeply religious couple focus on their beliefs in each episode of the show, and Michelle used her faith to help try to lead other women into the same happy marriage she has.

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Here are the highlights of her advice:

* A Husband Needs A Wife Who Accepts Him As A Leader And Believes In His God-Given Responsibilities”: Husbands are commanded to govern their wives; God works through a man’s decisions — good or bad; Bad decisions reveal his needs and allow the wife to appeal and demonstrate Godly character; The more a wife trusts her husband, the more careful he will be in giving her direction; Never ask others for counsel without your husband’s approval; reassure your husband that you understand and believe that he is your God-given leader.

* A husband needs a wife who will continue to develop inward and outward beauty: How can you become more of the wife of your husband’s dreams?; discover and conform to your husband’s real wishes; explain your hairstyle to others on the basis of your submission to your authority; separate your “rights” from your responsibilities.

* Ask your husband to define your responsibilities; Ask your husband to tell you when you have a resistant spirit; dispel a backbiting tongue by silence.

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Michelle and Jim Bob’s marriage remains strong despite the struggles they’ve had over the last two years, including the premature birth of their daughter Josie and the tragic miscarriage of their 20th child Jubliee last December.

Do you think Michelle’s advice for a happy marriage is helpful? Tell us in comments.

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If they are happy that is great. She should not, however, be trying to influence others with that archaeic philosphy. It would only work well for submissive insecure women.

by happy2bnormal
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 5:42pm

So this marriage sounds more like a cult, than an actual marriage. They're supposed to be equal... not the husband controlling the wife!

by rawkprincess
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 3:12pm

Marriage is an EQUAL relationship! Non of this command, demand, do as I say stuff. It's a sharing, loving, mutual and RESPECTFUL union.

by realitychick
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:26pm

Jim Bob needs a fat lip. He also needs to get his nuts clipped. Excuse me while I BARF

by Barbie Doll
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:25pm

Is Jim Bob giving his children their money from the show, so they can leave the sex nest when they are of age??

by maggie
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 11:49am

These people belong on a rabbit farm.

by donnab
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 11:05am

It seems to work for them. They are a loving, well adjusted family, that doesn't/has never relied on gov't support. They are hard working, built their house themselves...and not one kid has ever been in trouble. Not too many can say that.

by ilovegossip
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 10:27am

You might want to re-watch the show. A huge crew came in and finished the whole house, product placements from Sears. TLC was involved.

by maggie
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 11:35am

Maybe you should re-watch it... It took them 3 years to build it themselves. TLC came in at the end, and helped them furnish it. They still built the house themselves, from the bottom up (with help from members of their church)

by ilovegossip
Posted Tue, 02/21/2012 - 12:03pm