EXCLUSIVE: Betty Ford Tells Lindsay - 'Deal With Your Dad, Once And For All'

Posted on Oct 20, 2010 @ 10:20AM

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Lindsay Lohan has been told by her treatment team at the Betty Ford Center that she must come to grips with what role, if any, her dad Michael will play in her life once she leaves rehab.

A source close to the Mean Girls star, 24, tells RadarOnline.com: "Lindsay blames a lot of her problems and issues on her dad. His name comes up constantly. Lindsay has a lot of unresolved feelings and anger towards Michael."

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The insider told RadarOnline.com that Lindsay's counselors say it's time she deal with her feelings about her dad once and for all.

"Lindsay does love Michael. If she didn't, she wouldn't continue to lash out at him," the source said.

"However it's extremely unhealthy for Lindsay. In order for her to succeed with her sobriety once she leaves Betty Ford, she must decide if she wants a relationship with Michael or not.

"If she doesn't, then she needs to move on and realize she isn't a bad person for not wanting him in her life."

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One of the obstacles preventing her from making this decision is the resentment she feels every time Michael talks to the press.

According to the source, Lindsay "absolutely despises the way that Michael tries to get attention in the press by using her name. Lindsay simply can't trust him."

The insider tells RadarOnline.com that Lindsay is working to develop boundaries in treatment and that it's important for her family and friends to respect her efforts and not try to push themselves on her.

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"Deep down, Lindsay knows that Michael has done the things he has because she has shut him out of her life," the source said.

"Lindsay also feels that if she does try and forge a relationship with Michael, she will be betraying her mom. Lindsay needs her parents to assume their traditional parent roles now more than ever, and not worry about the issues and baggage they bring to the table."

The source adds: "Lindsay is completely opposed to having any type of relationship with Michael at this point. If that is what she wants, then Michael should respect that and give her time, nothing is forever."

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In an exclusive interview with RadarOnline.com, Michael says he wants only what's best for his daughter.

"This is the same message that we, as a family, received when Lindsay was at Cirque Lodge. I happily attended therapy with Lindsay, as did Dina," he said. However, when Dina was asked to participate in family therapy, she refused to. And does still to this day. For the sake of our daughter, let's hope Dina changes her mind."

Michael continues: "I stand in agreement with Lindsay's counselors that she if she does not resolve her issues with me in a therapeutic setting, she will continue to face some of the problems that brought her to where she is today."

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PERSONALLY, I HOPE LINDSAY WORKS THINGS OUT WITH HER DAD. HE IS A LOT HEALTHIER THAN HER MOTHER DINA. DINA IS A SICK ENABLER, AND SHE SHOULD BE KEPT AWAY FROM LINDSAY. MICHAEL NOT.

by mous
Posted Thu, 10/21/2010 - 12:54am

Addicts will never get sober until they take responsiblity and stop blaming others for their problems. She
must deal with both parents or she will continue to relapse...if this is not resolved

by disgusted
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 7:22pm

Disgusted, you are right! However, she DOES have the right to NOT deal with Michael right now IF she doesn't want to, although she MUST deal with her feelings toward him & stop blaming him! I really do hope that she can heal & move on with her life!

by TGIF10
Posted Thu, 10/21/2010 - 2:32pm

Jill09 is Dina Lohan.

by Smooch1
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 12:59pm

It's time for Lindsay to stop listening to her psychotic mother. She needs to negotiate and own her own relationships in life. NOT be influenced by a mother who hates her ex for reasons that should have stayed between them only.

by Smooch1
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 12:52pm

My guess is it's Dina leaking this; if any of it is accurate is another question altogether...

by misspriss
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 12:04pm

How are you getting this info??? It should be between LL and her counselors. So if Lindsay isn't leaking it then a counselor must be. According to everyone, LL doesn't talk to her dad so how can it be him? OR you're making it up.

by bluhare
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 9:35am

"This is the same message that we, as a family, received when Lindsay was at Cirque Lodge." Just replace Cirque with Betty Ford. at least that's what i think. I don't think neither lindsay or her counselor are leaking anything.

by Jill09
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 9:42am

LOOK, IF THIS IS YOU, DINA, JILL 09, GET THE HELL OFF RADARONLINE, AND GET YOURSELF INTO A PSYCHIATRIC HOSPITAL. START RESPECTING YOUR DAUGHTER'S BOUNDARIES. SICKOMANIAC.

by mous
Posted Thu, 10/21/2010 - 12:52am

Nothing you state anywhere-here OR TMZ under another posting name-is believable, DINA. It's so very clear who is authoring your posts. You spew the most ridiculous nonsense.

by Smooch1
Posted Wed, 10/20/2010 - 12:53pm