EXCLUSIVE: Expert Says Kerrigan Family Made Mistake Letting Son Into Home
Posted on Feb 10, 2010 @ 11:22AM
An expert on family violence believes that Nancy Kerrigan’s parents made a mistake in allowing their troubled son Mark to stay with them at the family home -- though he empathizes with that fatal decision.
Nancy Kerrigan’s Father's Death Ruled A Homicide
Mark Kerrigan, 45, who had a history of mental illness and violence, was staying in the family’s basement when he got into a fight with his elderly father which resulted in Daniel Kerrigan, 70, dying from a massive heart attack. The incident has been ruled as a homicide though the family does not believe Mark should be criminally charged.
Richard Gelles, Dean of the School of Social Policy & Practice at the University of Pennsylvania and the author of 25 books on families including The Violent Home and Intimate Violence And Families, gave RadarOnline.com his insight into the terrible dilemma that faced the Kerrigan family.
“Had I been treating them, knowing their son’s background, then I would have told them not to let this person back into your home," he said. “That would have been my clinical advice but in reality there is no such thing as an 'ex-child' and the Kerrigans were clearly involved in a ‘push and pull’ situation with their son."
Nancy Kerrigan And Her Family At Her Father’s Wake
Gelles admits this was a "no win" situation. “I have real sympathy with their particular situation because it really was a ‘no win’ one and the reality is if I was to give ten other couples the same advice only two of them would actually do it."
Another aspect facing the Kerrigan parents was the guilt over having a child with such problems. “The really sad part is that often parents like the Kerrigans are reluctant to let the world know about their children’s problems as they feel they are to blame for them," Gelles explained.
"In reality though, in the Mark Kerrigan case, this was a 45-year-old man who was still living at home and who had a history of mental illness and marital abuse.
“Clearly, there were other factors at play here that were not his parents' fault as he was shaped by other life experiences too at that age.”
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Mark – who is still being evaluated at a mental hospital – has pled not guilty to assault and battery charges.
Even if he had been able to counsel the Kerrigan family before the tragic outcome, Gelles doubts it would have altered much.
“Given what I know about the situation, I don’t think they would have followed my advice because that would have been a difficult road for them to follow."
As for the future, he surmises that there will not be a murder charge and Mark will end up in a therapeutic institution after a second degree plea to involuntary manslaughter.
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tragic! very sad to live and endure the rest of their lives
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 6:11pm
what about the general public. this guy belongs in prison!!!! he IS NOT famous and neither is NK anymore. if it was a common citizen he would be in the SLAMMER and NOT in a mental facility... STOP WITH THE EXCUSES!!!!
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 2:49pm
Stop with your assumptions! They are grieving over loss of 2 members. It is awful what happened, stand in their shoes once, they are losing TWO family members. Don't think for one moment that son is not going through enough punishment!
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 3:03pm
He has to and will live with the way things sadly ended forever in his heart too, whether it was the cause of his death or not. You want to make sure he pays by going to jail? I imagine he is paying for it emotionally
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 3:04pm
Has the coroner said the cause of the death was a heart attack?
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 2:22pm
If you click above on the link to the story about the coroner ruling it a homicide it explains more about it....it's a bit more complicated than just a heart attack.
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 2:49pm
Hind sight is 20/20
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 1:48pm
My mother made the mistake of trying to make everyone get along and it never happened...A person can't get along with everyone but they should not stay together in such close quarters..it is a disaster waiting to happen.
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 1:47pm
It will be a LONG time before the Kerrigan family is ready and able to accept that the attack on their father was the trigger for his fatal heart attack. And deep down they know this. Notice they haven't tried 2 bail him out.
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 1:32pm
I feel bad for the family especially the mom...who knows if the dad drove his son to anger frequently or what..I know my dad did, My poor mom didn't know how to stop it and couldn't get away herself.
Posted Wed, 02/10/2010 - 1:31pm