In an new, candid interview with Shape Magazine, LeAnn Rimes opened up about her messy divorce, her new romance, and finding strength and solace in working out.

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“I feel like I’m just now finding myself,” Rimes said. “I’ve always been one of those people who takes care of everyone else—and their needs—first. This past year, for the first time ever, I put me first. I’m sure some people are thinking that I was totally selfish, but the truth is, there are times in your life when you have to be selfish in order to find out what truly makes you happy.”

Rimes split with her husband Dean Sheremet last year, shortly after the news broke that she was seeing co-star Eddie Cibrian. Cibrian and Rimes have since moved in together, allowing her to get accustomed to another role: helping with Cibrian’s two children Mason and Jake who she says she loves to cook for.