Mel Gibson’s violent threats and allegations of hitting his infant daughter and ex-girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva have shocked and angered domestic violence groups who demand that the actor be held accountable for his actions.

“I think he should get very strong consequences,” Rita Smith, the executive director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, told RadarOnline.com in an exclusive interview.

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“I do not think anger management classes should be considered. It could be jail, or a fairly long batterers' intervention program of more than just a couple weeks,” said Smith, although she thinks it will be unlikely that a judge puts him behind bars.

Smith is concerned that if the Braveheart star doesn’t get sufficient punishment, then there will be no record if he committed the alleged atrocities – and nothing to stop him from repeating them. “Why would abusers stop if those (anger management classes) are the consequences they get? It’s pretty small comparatively speaking.”

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Smith says that Gibson has to be held accountable for all the potential consequences to get his attention. “If it doesn’t, that just makes him that much more dangerous.” The domestic violence expert revealed that it isn’t unusual for a man to hit a woman who is holding an infant. “It is very common - and those children are vulnerable as well.”

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Currently Mel has visitation rights with his daughter but Oksana has tried to prohibit him from seeing eight-month-old Lucia because she fears for her safety. “Most abusers get visitation with their children,” Smith told RadarOnline.com. “Even when there is documented evidence of violence - it’s part of the problem with our family court system that we’re working really hard to try to fix.”

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Gibson’s soon-to-be ex-wife Robyn gave sworn testimony to the court that Mel had never been abusive to her or their children, but Smith said there is a potential that he did abuse those kids too.

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Smith went on to explain why someone would hit their children. “It is very common for someone who’s abusive to not care if children are in the way when they start their attack. The more information that comes out from what Oksana says she experienced, the more typical of an abuser Mel looks.”

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On the tapes revealed exclusively on RadarOnline.com, Gibson screams, “I deserve to be blown fast! Before the f**king Jacuzzi! OK, I’ll burn the goddamn house up, but blow me first! How dare you!??!”

“If you take the way that he talked on those tapes to Oksana and to the deputy after his 2006 DUI arrest, he shows a clear pattern of disrespecting woman,” and not even liking them, Smith said.

She expressed concern for the future of Oksana and Mel. “Particularly if he assaulted her while she was holding her child and he made fairly strong suggestions that he would kill her."

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“He didn’t use those words but instead said, 'I’ll put you in the rose garden,' that’s what I would think if someone said that to me. Making a threat on someone’s life - that is what we need to respond to now.”

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Rita Smith defended Oksana and slammed tactics by Mel’s lawyers to discredit her. “They’re going to say everything they can about her without looking at the potential safety factor for both her and her child, because she is still in danger here. He has a lot of control over her still.”

The shocking revelation that Mel Gibson said his former girlfriend and the mother-of-his-child, Oksana Grigorieva, deserved to be hit has enraged anti-domestic violence groups.

On a tape that RadarOnline.com exclusively revealed on Wednesday, a teary Oksana is heard asking Mel, “What kind of a man is that who would hit a woman when she is holding a child in her hands, hitting her twice in the face?”

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“What kind of a man is that?” the Russian musician repeats, who secretly taped the Braveheart star because she was afraid of him after several death threats. He responds with “You know what — you f**cking deserved it.”

A support group that protects battered women can now explain exactly what kind of man would do such a terrible thing.

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“He is obviously a typical abuser,” Rita Smith, the Executive Director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence told RadarOnline.com in an exclusive interview. “He admitted he hit her and she deserved it.  He’s wrong.  She couldn’t possibly do anything that would deserve being hit.”

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Smith said that Mel should not be allowed to be around Oksana and their baby daughter, Lucia.  “Anybody who takes a swing at a woman who is holding a child is not to be trusted.”

Sources close to Oksana claim she was left bloodied and bruised, and had her two front teeth knocked out during the violent confrontation with Mel. Now, RadarOnline.com is revealing even more content from the tape and this time Mel admits to hitting Oksana twice in the face while she was holding eight-month-old Lucia.

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“His attitude is that it is OK to use violence,” Smith told RadarOnline.com. “His lack of concern for the safety of Oksana and his child is a major problem.”

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Smith says the law doesn’t always prevent the victims of domestic violence.  “The consequences are not steep enough and until they are it will continue to happen.”

Mel’s celebrity status doesn’t make him above the law.  “He may be Mel Gibson, but he’s no different than any other abuser,” she concluded.”